In the last installment, (SEEN HERE), you read about organizing your life and claiming a personal living space. These next 3 steps may be the most daunting: we will discuss finances, your vehicle, and women. Money is a necessity, 2nd only to oxygen and if you don’t know how to get as much as you need it can be scary territory. Your transportation represents your own freedom to come and go on your own time. As for women, anything that’s worth doing, is worth doing for them. Once you control these aspects of your life, you’ll get a good picture of the kind of man you want to be.
Step Three: Finances
Something that really scares people who are still listed as a “dependent” on a tax form is rent. It isn’t cheap and neither are mortgages.
Be a cheap bastard.
It’s not how much you make it’s how much you save. Want to save money? Cook for yourself. Don’t know how to cook? Learn. It’s 2016 and YouTube exists. Never be afraid to learn new shit, especially when it saves you money. You’ll be saving on rent living in the hood, too – and obviously, make sure you have a job, and if you’re not happy with the one you have today, get a new one.
Put in one application a day, starting today. Try for two new interviews a week. Someone out there wants to hire you. You may want to start your own business, and why wouldn’t you? So you’re not there yet with resources, OK, but in the meantime you’re still going to need to be employed full time. Get a plan together for your eventual goal.
Read books. Make lists. Try to cross something off your list everyday and see how quickly you’re doing what you want for a living. I have a media production company right now. To survive I need, gear, crew, projects, clientele, social media, money, etc. Each of these require multiple things on a list to acquire. When you make yourself put a tremendous amount of work into something, you really get to see how much you love it… or want to move on from it. But if it works, it’s yours, and no one can take that from you. Make what you do for a living an extension of yourself. If your supplemental job can’t benefit what you actually want to do, then do manual labor. And work your ass off. Whatever it is you do for money, Proud Boys don’t half ass it – people will notice and you’ll make connections. Oh, and make sure you save 25% of your money a month.
Step Four: Vehicle (If you live in the city skip to Step Five)
My first car was a Kia Rio. You know what that said about me? It said that I let my mom pick out my car. I always had little four cylinder Asian cars. I always thought they were just “to get me from A to B”.
I was wrong.
Your car represents you as much as your clothes or your haircut, whether you like it or not. It says what kind of guy you are, or want to be, and potential clients and partners notice that.It’s a bit hard to invest any serious time in a guy driving an ‘86 Toyota Tercel. Your boy here found that out the hard way. Get something you can be proud of. If you can’t afford it, save and finance something used.
It is acceptable to have a parent co-sign for you. I still can’t afford anything fancy or expensive, but this past year I bought a car that I can drive up to any situation with pride. I have a Jeep Wrangler (“Jeep Wrangler: I Fucked Your Mom in One”). I call it… Harambe. Harambe can protect, and Harambe can destroy. It’s sturdy, it’s used, it has a tried and true engine, and just shopping for it forced me to get smarter about cars.
It’s car that makes me look like I know what I’m doing. Zombie Apocalypse? Get in. “Red Dawn” scenario? We’ll take the Jeep! It looks great going to the beach, and when I pull up in it on set I seem like the guy in charge.
Buy American, and learn to fix it (especially if you know nothing about cars). It’ll become a useful man skill to have. Learn as it breaks. And every man should learn stick; sure it’s nerve-wracking for about 3 days, after which it’s a skill you can wear as a badge on your sleeve.
You know what a Ford Falcon is? It’s the fucking car from Mad Max get that. If it’s a truck, beat it up. Try for a cheap, classic car and fix it up as you go, one piece at a time. If you never have anything to haul, always get a motorcycle. Used Chevy pickups are nice too. Get something with a little power that might be shitty for the ozone layer. No fucking bumper stickers please. Also, you can have any color you’d like, as long as it’s black.
Step Five: Women
Did your last girlfriend constantly attempt to get on your phone? The second the next girl does it, cut her loose.
Does a jealous girl drive you crazy? She’s gone.
Call a girl tonight. If you can’t do that, start being a “no wanker“. Stop masturbating for 30 days at a time. When touching yourself every time you get the “tingle” isn’t an option, your body is programmed to MAKE YOU leave the house and want to talk to new women.
As a man, if you don’t have a girlfriend, you should be talking to at least five women a day. Say anything. Say “Hi” “Nice Shoes” “Are there anything good places to eat around here?”
You can’t win if you don’t put it on the table. Get in the game and have some fun. Fuck. Be Rejected. Just remember to hang on to the one that looks at you with respect. A girl that makes a good second-in-command is an amazing asset, especially if you get really good at reading each other without necessarily talking. That will come in handy when you look back on your life, and see all that you’ve made for yourself. It would seem empty if your great relationships aren’t a huge part in it.
Who knows? Down the line, have a few kids and teach them all of the shit no one taught you.